In Defense of Korra and Asami's Relationship

So I've discovered that I'm a coward because I wrote a long fucking YouTube comment on a video about Korra (yeah what else) and decided not to post it because it's been over six months and it's in defense of the ending relationship. I realize I've already talked about that here but I already spent too much time writing the comment and I need to put it somewhere. Nobody reads my blog anyway so I can just treat this post as a rebuttal. Maybe that makes it more professional. Anyway, the video was by BlackCriticGuy and here's the link so you have context if you want it. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8womOTSkNqU

"Thing is, you're not wrong about their friendship being strong. It's just not on a binary scale, where Friendship /= Romance. I think there are plenty of people who would say that their significant other is their best friend. It's just this mindset in the video that it can't possibly be romantic in any form because it's based on a friendship that frustrates me.

I'm not too judgmental of people who didn't like it or see it coming, one of the bigger problems of the fourth season was rushed writing and Asami on the whole suffered from it (along with several other characters). That said, I don't know why people seem to think they were supposed to have been in love or a relationship the whole season. The way I viewed it, they developed that friendship in the third season very well, and then spent three years apart, during which time Korra was severely depressed and Asami was pretty busy. Suddenly they come back into each others' lives and rekindle that friendship, but there's something different going on and they don't really understand it right away. More importantly they've got an immediate threat on their hands so it's not until Kuvira's dealt with that they're able to sit back and enjoy each other's company, and the first thing they do is slip away to be alone.

The points about the vacations girls take: I honestly thought that you might just be trolling at that point because it sounded ridiculous. But even if I accept that as a common occurence, in a TV show you have to accept that some things are focused on for a reason. It is very weird if Korra and Asami just take a friend's vacation in the spirit world alone together. Thematically it would have been better, if they were going the friend route, to involve the other two friends in the group, end the show with all four on another adventure. The entire mood of the last scene was giving me romantic vibes, I really have struggled to even see how anyone else could miss it. Again, the importance of focusing on their hands and gaze, in a show that means something.

I feel like the points about putting a label on their relationship and asking why the Avatar has to be in a relationship just don't matter. You might as well ask why Aang needed to have a relationship and why could he and Katara just have been close friends? After all, Aang was a monk and if any character could be expected not to engage in romance it would be the 12 year old bald monk. You can ask those questions sure but it doesn't really help the conversation any. You can ask them about any couple. They could have done that but they didn't, the answer is because they wanted Korra to have a relationship.

It bugs me when people try to devalue the relationship or make excuses for why they're only friends. Criticize how its done all you like, it's definitely not written particularly well, but the creators confirmed the relationship as romantic. In my personal opinion it feels like it's just starting, not in full swing and I don't know why more people don't even seem to consider it.

I know this video is six months old and practically no one cares anymore, especially in the wake of Gay Marriage being legalized. I usually like your videos BCG and I think you're a swell guy, but stumbling upon this video just hit my buttons and I felt obligated to retread my defense of Korrasami. I understand where you were coming from but I just felt a bit insulted while watching."

I legitimately do feel like BlackCriticGuy was kind of insulting to people like me in this video. It's not that Korra and Asami weren't good friends or that they always had romantic interactions, but just denying that anything they did together could be romantic in some way just bothers me. The denial that there just wasn't any romantic subtext at all and I'm just reaching to draw a conclusion that just is not substantiated by the show at all, when it's been confirmed by the creators that I'm correct is just crazy and maddening. Hell, claiming that he believes the creators were merely trying to stir up controversy in order to get more exposure is far more guilty of reaching than any Korrasami speculation from season 4. Even at the end of the video when he's saying that it's okay to have different opinion or interpretations just felt like covering himself rather than sincerely believing it.

One point I left out of the comment as well was my exasperation with trying to find ways around Korra and Asami being together romantically. I mean, shippers always go crazy whenever their favorite pairing isn't realized (exaggeration, don't get your pants in a knot) but just the amount of people who suddenly ask why Korra just can't be single or why their can't be just a strong friendship between her and Asami is irritating. Nobody was asking why Aang got in a relationship. Maybe it's just that I don't see it much, but it really does feel like people were just trying to deny a homosexual relationship instead of legitimately wanting Korra single with a friend. Would most of those people still have asked that it she had ended up with Mako? Was anyone asking that in the first season finale when it looked like that might be the end of the series?

Obviously I really enjoy this pairing, enough to spend a few posts writing about it, and it really irks me that people just try to undermine it any way they can. I don't want to be harsh but the fact is that Korrasami is a romantic relationship and trying to deny it is pointless and irritating. Again I say, criticize it if you don't like it, and if you hate it because you're a homophobe at least come out and freaking say it if you're going to talk about it. Write or read fanfiction if you really need an alternate version or something but denying romantic Korrasami is factually wrong. Hopefully the upcoming comic will make it so obvious it can't be denied anymore.

Boy, how embarrassing would it be if this whole issue had settled down already and people had already come to terms with it and I'm just stupidly stoking the embers to a conflict I wish was dealt with? Well, in that hypothetical, there would be no one to read this anyway so it's almost like it couldn't happen.

-Subtle